Big Feelings, Small Steps: Easing the Transition to School

By children's author, Bethany Walker.

Starting school is a huge moment in all children’s lives. It is completely understandable to be anxious about starting school. I know I was VERY anxious – and that was when I was starting school as a teacher!

But fear not, there are loads of things you can do to help your child. Here are my top tips:

1. Be Positive About School

Talk about school as an exciting place to learn, make friends, and have fun!

2. Practice Basic Independence Skills

Boost your child’s self-esteem by teaching them to dress themselves, use the toilet, wash hands, and open lunch containers in readiness for school.

3. Establish a Consistent Routine Early

Your child will feel safer and more in control if a school-like routine (waking, meals, bedtime) is started a couple of weeks before school begins.

4. Encourage Social Skills and Turn-Taking

Practise sharing, listening, and asking for help during playdates or with siblings in readiness for the school environment.

5. Build Literacy and Numeracy Naturally

There is no need to ‘teach’ at home, but any informal learning is great, from singing songs and reading together to counting things and playing simple games.

6. Visit the School or Classroom if Possible

Most schools will provide orientation sessions and settling-in days, which really help familiarise your child with the school environment. Look out for school readiness sessions that are put on in most local areas too.

7. Label Everything

Label clothing, bags and lunch boxes to prevent items from getting lost and to help your child take responsibility for their belongings.

8. Talk About Feelings

Let your child know it’s okay to feel nervous, excited, or unsure. It’s a big step!

9. Stay Calm and Positive on the First Day

Keep goodbyes short and upbeat, and reassure your child you’ll be back. Save any tears you might have for when you’ve left the school! (But do pack tissues).

10. Read Books About Starting School

Stories about starting school can help children understand what to expect, and help you talk together about the first day of school …

And How To Train Your Teacher is just such a book. My new picture book, beautifully illustrated by Sophie Kent, is a gentle, encouraging guide to starting school – with a twist! In the book, the children in class all work together and support each other to teach the teacher. It’s a big job!